“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are His. And what does He want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. ’For I hate divorce!’ says the Lord, the God of Israel.” (Malachi 2:15-16a NLT)
Having been divorced I’m convinced that no one hates divorce more than someone who has been through one. On some levels it’s worse than death, because it’s like your spouse is “dead” to you, but especially if you have children, you need to continue to see them. It’s like you have a zipper on your chest and every time you have contact your chest is “unzipped” and your heart is ripped out anew. But the greatest tragedy for couples with children is what happens to the kids.
I’ve come across an excellent resource that I want to share, and encourage you to share, with anyone who is divorced or is contemplating divorce. The following information is from their website which is: Children and Divorce – milavetzlaw.com/children-and-divorce/
Children and Divorce
Divorce is common in the United States, with nearly 50% of all marriages ending in divorce. In many instances, children of divorce tend to suffer the most, given their inability to process and cope with continued stress.
They have a particularly hard time learning to live without one of their parents, which in many cases is the father. Research has shown that, historically, fathers are less likely to get custody of their children, although this trend is changing.
Data show that, depending on the state, fathers were awarded custody an average of 35% of the time in 2018.
In some states, this figure was as high as 50%, and in others, it was as low as 21%. Although these are low percentages, they are far higher than in the past. For example, in 1994, fathers were awarded custody only about 16% of the time.
Table of Contents
- The Effects of Divorce on Children
- How does a child’s age affect his or her reaction to divorce?
- How does divorce affect kids in school?
- How does living in a single-parent household affect children?
- How to Help a Child Through a Divorce
- How to Tell Kids About a Divorce
- Co-Parenting Tips
- What can teachers and guidance counselors do?
- Therapy and Counseling During a Divorce
Blessings, Ed 😊